How to Get Things Done With Young Kids
In this article I want to talk about how to get things done when you have young children. Well children of any age really, but especially young kids that are so very much more dependant on you!
Well, firstly I’m afraid……. you don’t… But its not all bad news so hang in there!
The best way to see the early years is with acceptance. I find that by ‘trying’ to get things done with two little ones flying around mainly just creates stress in my life. When I take a deep breath stop trying to do whatever I am doing and just get down on the floor and connect with my kids, things flow so much more easily. Most kids I would say don’t care bout whether the house is clean, the beds are made, the washing is done or even if the bills are paid. They just care about love, fun, connection and adventure.
So do what you can to make things easier on yourself. Arrange the bills to be paid automatically, or by someone else. Let go of the housework (or pay someone else to do it!) , jump on the beds instead of making them and play dress up with the laundry. This is really a time to let go of ‘I should’s’ or ‘I have to’s’ and just enjoy these years with your kids.
Its really about challenging your own automatic thinking on ‘how life should be’ too. We are so conditioned by the past, the media, our friends and relatives. What matters is that you are enjoying life and you have great connection with your kids and partner. When you are able to let go of the ‘should’s’ and ‘have to’s’ life can be so much more fun.
You can also include your children in things you need to do, for example make it into a fun game for the kids to sort the washing and turn on the machine, they can play with pots and pans while you are cooking, give them a mop or cloth when you are trying to clean, talk to them about what your doing, (if they’re interested). Young kids often love to ‘play grown up’ at some stage too so use this opportunity to involve them in life!
‘If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.’ ~Mary Engelbreit
Secondly, give your full attention to whatever it is your doing. If your playing with the kids, then be completely present and involved, don’t be checking your Facebook every 5 mins (I’m guilty of this one!) or thinking about what you have to get done around the home. And then when your doing other things like housework or business or being with your partner, (if you get kids free time) try and give that your full attention too rather feeling guilty about the fact your not playing with your kids. Be in the moment, and have gratitude for whatever that moment is.
The 1st thing I want to mention is organisation With kids you ask? What I mean, is when you get some free time, whether your running a business or running a home or both, ask yourself. What one thing can I do with this time that is going to make the biggest difference? Whether its a visual difference of tidying up the floor, to an emotional difference of tying up lose ends or getting something done you were putting off or a personal difference of taking a bath, if you ask yourself that one question, ‘What thing can I do with this time that will make the most difference?’ You’ll find you get more done with that time than you thought possible and feel better for it.
Hope that’s helped somewhat, please let me know if you have any ideas on getting things done as a parent? Would love to hear your thoughts and see your comments!