Healing the Inner Child

‘Children who are not loved in their very beingness do not know how to love themselves.  As adults, they have to learn to nourish, to mother their own lost child.’  Marion Woodman

In this post I want to help you to heal a part of your own past,  in order for that past to not affect you in the present.  This is so important, especially when we have children of our own.

We looked in the last article, ‘I’ll Never Say That to My Kids!‘, at similar patterns in parenting we are unconsciously sharing with our parents.  If you haven’t already, go and do the Self Awareness Exercise that was included in that post.  This should have given you some insights into areas you may be having problems with.

Based on these insights we can move forward on clearing these patterns.

We are going to do a meditation type exercise here, so you will need to find 20 minutes when you can turn off the phone and make sure you won’t be disturbed.  (I know that’s hard for most, but trust me it’ll be worth it!)

I recommend to record the meditation onto a recording device so you don’t have to keep referencing the text.  If you do, remember to include pauses of about 15-30 seconds between each part so you have time to experience whatever is going on for you.  I have wrote this as if you are listening to it and not reading it.  It is best to do this when you are as relaxed as possible, but if you do choose to read through it, then it should work just as well.

Reference the insights you had in the last exercise and choose one you want to deal with.  Put on some relaxing music if you like.

I’ll be recording this mediation into an MP3 download in the future for you all, I’ll have both free products and ones for purchase so sign up and watch this space!

Healing your Inner Child Meditation

Make yourself comfortable, sitting or lying down, making sure the temperature and lighting is relaxing.

Start to notice your breath, as it comes in and out of your body. Take some deeper breaths, breathing all the way out.  Allow your eyelids to close if they haven’t already.

Imagine yourself in a beautiful garden, in front of you is a path leading off in the distance.  Follow the path through the garden until you see a bench in front of a beautiful lake…….  Sit on the bench and take 3 deep breaths…….  Allow your mind to wander……..  Remember the insight you wanted to deal with from the previous exercise….  Notice the feelings that come up when you do or say this to your child….. and allow your mind to, take you back to the first time you felt this way…..

Allow any impressions or memories to surface…..  What needs to happen here….  Does someone need to be forgiven?…..  Do you need to say something…. to be heard?……  No matter what happened in the past I want you to let the memory go now…….

Imagine a bright light surrounding you….  it can be any colour you want…  Its a healing loving colour……  Allow it to permeate every cell of your body until your filled with this healing light…..  Send it back into your past….. to your younger self…… When this feels complete, bring it back into your present, and just allow the healing light to fully integrate into your body…….

When you feel ready, start to wiggle your fingers and your toes, and gently open your eyes and come back to the room.

You may want to take some time to sit there and just relax for  minute or two to think about what you just experienced.


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Emma Combes

Emma helps parents overcome the automatic negative reactions that are stopping them from parenting consciously and with love through her coaching practice. She also helps parents live the most awesome life in all areas, so they can know they were the best role model they could be for their children.